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    From August Abolins@1:153/757.21 to Rob Mccart on Saturday, August 30, 2025 20:32:00
    Hello Rob!

    ** On Saturday 30.08.25 - 08:02, you wrote to MIKE POWELL:

    Her relatives could never understand how you could be so
    close to someone you only know through eMail and the rare
    phone call.

    Best explained to them as a friend who you can complain
    about your family to without getting into trouble later..
    B)

    It could also be because another relative could spill the
    trust-relationship to another relative ..and then, as you say
    above - that could trigger divisions. Someone unrelated we
    converse with (say one to one via email or even over the phone)
    is less likely "to get involved" with the family members
    directly.

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    ../|ug

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  • From Rob Mccart@1:2320/105 to AUGUST ABOLINS on Monday, September 01, 2025 09:24:44
    Her relatives could never understand how you could be so
    close to someone you only know through eMail and the rare
    phone call.

    Best explained to them as a friend who you can complain
    about your family to without getting into trouble later.. B)

    It could also be because another relative could spill the
    >trust-relationship to another relative ..and then, as you say
    >above - that could trigger divisions. Someone unrelated we
    >converse with (say one to one via email or even over the phone)
    >is less likely "to get involved" with the family members
    >directly.

    Yes.. they've often said that a person is more likely to talk
    about their problems with a stranger in a bar than with someone
    they know well.. But, as you suggest, often sooner or later
    something negative you mention to one close family friend or
    relative is likely to find its way back to the person you were
    talking about, accidentally or on purpose..

    Experience has taught me not to say negative things about a
    female relative to another female relative .

    That's just asking for trouble.. B)

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    * SLMR Rob * Gross tonnage equals right of way
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